I have an old-fashioned baby book where you are supposed to record baby’s first steps, baby’s first bath etc. I assiduously filled it out for my first child, put a few details in for my second but by the time my third came along so too had digital cameras and so her “firsts’ are stored somewhere on an old laptop for which I have long forgotten the password. At least I think that’s where they are – I hope that’s where they are! Point is, I don’t 100% know…..meanwhile my fourth child’s pictures are somewhere up in the cloud, I’m not exactly sure where and it’s going to be a big task to curate them – if I ever actually get around to that.
Recording the precious details of your newborn becomes even more significant under the shadow of Covid-19 and the self-isolation we have all been asked to adopt. When we emerge from this strange time, sharing these details will be your way to help others connect with this brand new human. You will have a lot to talk about! Grandparents who have only seen their new grandchild from a distance are going to want to hear everything. When they finally get to cradle this precious new life in their arms and examine every finger, every toe – the details of how they have already changed will be so important. In this era of smart phones and social media, I know they will have seen pictures and videos but don’t forget that these are transient and unless you carefully curate them they will soon be lost somewhere up in the great cloud.
You think you won’t forget the details, when they first slept through the night, when they first smiled directly at you, these moments are everything to you right now. But every step of the way with this precious child is going to be just as important as the last and every step will be something that you think you won’t forget. However, by the time a few years go by and you have maybe added a few more precious children to the mix, it will become more difficult to remember absolutely everything!
So write them down – the old fashioned way! Get out your pens and document your thoughts, your feelings – your wonder at it all. Most importantly, print some pictures and stick them in – make a scrap book or go ahead and get one of the pre-printed baby record books. It doesn’t have to be perfect, don’t mind when there are gaps where you forget to fill something in, of course you won’t be able to do it all and that’s ok (that’s really what motherhood is all about – but that’s another days blog!).
In years to come you will be so much more likely to pick up this tangible book and looking through it be brought back into these recorded moments. Printed books and pictures seem so much more accessible somehow, more meaningful and easier to reach for when you just need to take a moment to remember. Much easier to lay your hands on than those digitals that are floating around there somewhere up in the sky.